My father’s sister did 23 and me, and guess who popped up on her DNA family page, little ole me!
She was listed as my half sister, which would either mean her father, is my father too, or my father, her brother is her father too. I don’t think either is the case, with DNA relatives, they come close, but the exact relationship isn’t always certain. But I kinda liked the idea that my dad slept with his mother. Then finally his family would see he wasn’t a great guy. I thought it was kinda funny.
So, I contacted her, on the 23 and me website. We shared our DNA profiles. It was nice. Then we started emailing. I shared my huge Ancestry.com tree with her. She asked if I wanted to meet for dinner sometime, me and hubby with her and her hubby.
I did not want to do that. I told her about the shunning, and she said my cousin, the one who told me about the shunning had it wrong. There was no decision to shun me. I guess it was not official, but everyone did it anyway?
Strangely, I have no desire to see my Aunt. She does not mean much to me. She told me that she loves my father, “warts and all” and cannot speak about his decisions. Fair enough. I can, and his decisions hurt a lot of people. He’s a scumbag. As long as I feel this way, I don’t think I can ever get along well with my aunt. We can’t have a casual going out to dinner kind of relationship. Especially after all those years of silence.
And…still no word about my mother. No acknowledgement of her death. No I’m sorry, nothing. why would I want to be near this woman? Well, I don’t.
Auntie said she’d be there if I ever wanted to get to know her. Does that sound like a loving invitation? It does not to me. I know enough to stay away from this one…